Personal Sex Advice by Deni | Edited by Samarel
Dear Deni
My hubby has a VERY large penis. I love to suck on it but cannot get all of it in my mouth. I feel like he doesn’t enjoy it because I seem to scrape him with my teeth when I attempt to take it all in my mouth. And he wants me to swallow....I'm not sure I like his taste, Is there any harm? Also, is there a technique to take his penis all the way down without gagging? This is something he wants but my gag reflexes aren't too good.
And I love to suck dick, but this is the first time I have ever been with anyone that is this large.
Melissa
Dear Melissa
Sweetheart, much as we wish it were not so, sometimes ten pounds of sugar will not all fit into a five-pound sack. I have a lover these days (Hugh) that is also incredibly well endowed. I do not take his penis totally into my mouth because of exactly the problems you describe.
Take ONLY his cock head into your mouth
First, Take only the glans (his cock head) into your mouth. Stimulate it with your tongue rather than moving your head up and down. Pretend you have candy in your mouth, and move your tongue all over it just as you would if it were real candy. Most of the sensations of pleasure when we fellate a man come from his glans. The little triangle under on the under belly of his cock head is the most sensitive by far. Our tongues can give enough stimulation there to make that activity very satisfying for them.
Use your hands to "jack him off"
Then, rather than bobbing our head on him, use your hands to "jack him off" just like you would if you weren’t suckling on his cock. If you watch some video clips of blow jobs, you will see many different ways of "jacking" a cock. Movement straight up and down works best if you have no lubrication. After you have suckled for a while on his cock head, you will normally have a mouth full of saliva, which makes good lubrication. Or some of the flavored lubricants will also work well.
After you have lubricant all over his shaft, a twisting motion on their shaft is very enjoyable to a man. And honestly, it is the visual aspects as they watch us devoted to their penis that most turns a man on. After they see us worshiping their manhood, the sensations that our mouths and hands give them are just the whipped cream on the top of their ice cream Sunday of delight.
About gagging
Gagging is a natural reflex, but the trick is to learn how to control the reflex. There are a couple of things you can do to help.
First, pull your tongue forward when you have something delectable pressing at the back of your throat. I practice with a dildo every couple of days. With a dildo, you have the ability to instantly pull it out if you need to. That is good when you are learning.
Second. If you make swallowing motions with your tongue and mouth, it seems to help control the reflex. Again, to swallow, you need to bring your tongue as far forward in your mouth as you can. The swallowing reflexes are already programmed into you so that you can swallow your food. Mother Nature only intends you to gag when you are not swallowing. So by "swallowing" your man's penis, you are tricking mother nature, in a very good way.
Using a dildo to help you out So, go buy a good dildo that is about the same size as your man's penis, and then practice with it until you have it figured out.
I guess I should add that I LOVE sucking on my man's penis, especially if I can catch him while he is soft and pliable. That way I can swallow him while soft and keep him down my throat, breathing through my nose until he gets hard!
To swallow or (not) to swallow I have great news for you! There is nothing wrong with enjoying the liquids that come from a man’s penis. Their sperm is full of nutrients and protein. The clear liquids that many men exude prior to their orgasm are also nutritious. Even their urine, should you desire to experience it, is sterile, although it has very little nutritional value. God designed us so that all the good stuff comes out the front, and all the yuck comes out the back.
Men do treasure having our mouths on their most sensitive part! They feel especially valued when they can see our happy, turned-on faces enjoying on their manhood. It makes them feel cherished, and loved.
Personally, I absolutely love suckling on their penis. I particularly love to catch them soft and then feel their manhood grow inside my mouth as I enjoy them. The look on their face as they cum in my mouth as I watch them is indescribably erotic!
And I love the taste of sperm. I prefer sperm to almost any dessert I have ever had, well, except chocolate silk pie, and tapioca. But then with tapioca, I think I like it so much because it reminds me of sperm.
Make your man happy. Suck his cock to completion and encourage him to deposit all his wonderful sticky love juices inside your mouth and throat! And enjoy them. They are good for you, . . . . and enjoying them makes your marriage better, and stronger!
If you are really open minded...
Since you do obviously enjoy fellatio (like I do), tell your man you want him to bring a buddy home that is less well endowed, and suckle him as your man pleasures your body in other ways. Could have some very wonderful times that way!
Great sex is about giving, not about taking
In the end, though, we have to remember that sex is about giving pleasure to our partner(s), so when we become fixated on our own needs, such as enjoying giving head to our lover, we can lose sight of the fact it is not enjoyable for them. At that point, we have to find other ways to give our lovers’ pleasures that are mutually satisfying.
Remember, great sex is about giving, not about taking.
Enjoy giving head.
Deni
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