Personal Sex Advice by Deni | Edited by Samarel
Dear Deni
My husband is VERY well-endowed. He is 6'3". I am 5' 1". Although I REALLY enjoy having sex with him, it is painful more so than not. I once read that certain sexual positions were better than others to help us. Can you please recommend some positions that are better than others to make me more "accessible" to him?
R
Dear R
A large penis is both a gift and a punishment that affects the man and the woman in many ways. I wish that you had told me whether your husband is large in girth, length, or both. But since you didn’t, I will try to talk generally about all three situations.
It's also about the depth of a woman’s vagina
As I have said in past tips, the depth of a woman’s vagina can range from quite shallow to surprisingly deep. A few women can only accept a penis that is four inches or less. A few women can accept a penis that is as long as 14”. Most women can accept a penis that is up to seven inches long thrusting into them without too much problem.
One of the great things about the design of a woman’s body is that our vaginal sheathe is quite stretchy in breadth. This works in our favor if we are with a man who has a thick penis (or having a baby).
Get on top of him
One of the ways to assure that a well-endowed man’s penis does not injure us or cause us pain is to be on top, therefore in control, during the initial penetration each time we have sex.
Usually if a man’s penis is particularly THICK, but not particularly LONG, the woman must only make certain that she takes all the time she needs in order to stretch her vagina sufficiently that his girth will enter her easily. This can be done with fingers, toys, or if taken slowly, his penis. Lots of lubrication on both his organ and her vagina will usually permit slow, serene penetration.
Longer or deeper?
If however a man is longer than our vagina is deep, stretching our pussies depth will only help if his cock is not so long that the head of his penis strikes our sensitive internal organs, such as our bladder. For any woman who is with a man who is too long to accept comfortably, I recommend that the woman be on top every time, or at least until her lover learns just how deep into her he can safely go.
Being on top during sex allows the woman to control both speed of entry, and depth of penetration.
If a woman finds herself on the bottom or being taken doggy style, and her lover starts to thrust too deep and/or too hard, she should insert her clenched fist between their bodies to inhibit his overly exuberant penetrations.
If your husband is longer than you are deep, teach him that he cannot bottom out in you with force, nor pound you while being so deep inside you. A bladder infection can be painful for a long time. Too many bladder infections can lead to a permanently weakened bladder.
It's about how you move
So the direct answer to your question is for you to use sex positions where YOUR movements control both speed and depth of penetration. I am normally comfortable with any man, regardless of diameter, that is seven and a half inches long. In fact, my favorite penis size is two inches in diameter and seven and a half inches long. However, with great care and having taken my time, my body did stretch deep enough to accept the full length of a man I have called Big Jon. His penis was fourteen inches long.
By taking him that deep, I now have to be careful, because I have less ability to hold my urine when I have to pee. When I have to go now, I HAVE to GO! It was worth it though, seeing the look on his face when he saw tiny me take his whole cock inside me. Happily, his time with me gave him the self-confidence to date other women, and he is now happily married to a wonderful woman who cherishes his prodigious size.
Slow down
If you are apart from your lover for an extended period, the woman being on top and therefore in control of speed and depth, can also allow her to take the time to get nicely turned on enough that she can orgasm at the same time her lover does. While doing so, you can control how soon he comes. Simply slowing down or even stopping can help women with men who tend to be premature ejaculators.
Men like that a whole lot!
I hope this helps you, R. If not, write back with a more specific question and I will try again.
Deni
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