What Your Favorite Sex Position Says About You
How your erotic desires speak the language of intimacy, pleasure, and visual passion
Save the acrobatic positions for the weekend
I’ve always believed that your favorite sexual position says more about you than your zodiac sign, your birth chart, or whether you drink espresso or latte. It’s a language. A confession. A choice that reveals something about your desires, your fantasies, and the way you want to be touched—or touch someone else.
And because I am who I am, I don’t see sex positions as just sex positions. I see shapes. Lines. Energy. Art. I see two bodies creating an erotic geometry that belongs to them alone.
When I started working on The Secret Drawer card series, I didn’t just want erotic art. I wanted erotic identity. The moment you hold one of those cards, whether it’s doggy style or reverse cowgirl, you recognize something in yourself. These cards are miniature confessions disguised as visuals.
And today… we’re going to talk positions.
Yes, the sexy kind.
But also the meaningful kind, the ones that reveals how you love and how you want to be loved.
Doggy Style: The Wild One
Doggy style is never just doggy style.
Some people think it’s all about being taken. Or domination. Or raw desire. But I’ve always seen something else in it: freedom.
If you’re a doggy-style person, you like intensity—but you also like space. You enjoy surrendering, but only when you’re choosing to. This position is about trust without eye contact, desire without words, and pleasure that doesn’t apologize for itself.
People who love doggy style are the rule-breakers. The ones who crave depth and intensity. You’re the type who wants your fantasies to be lived, not just whispered.
Whenever I draw this position in art form, it has a very specific energy: hungry, exposed, confident.
Doggy style is the erotic version of saying:
“I want you to have all of me, but on my terms.”
And I love that.
Cowgirl: The One Who Likes Taking Control
If cowgirl is one of your favorites, you already know the truth: you’re the kind of person who doesn’t wait to be desired. You go after what you want. You like to take control, guide the pace, and decide the rhythm of the moment.
Women who love to be on top are usually incredibly self-aware of their pleasure. They’re not afraid to lead. They’re not afraid to say, through movement:
“I know exactly what I like.”
This position reveals a different kind of strength—a sensual, confident one that isn’t afraid of attention or being seen. Cowgirl is eye contact, connection, and intentional desire.
In my art for this one, I always emphasize the gaze. Not the body. It’s all about the look that says:
I’m choosing you right now.
Reverse Cowgirl: The Seductive Strategist
Reverse cowgirl is cowgirl’s mysterious sister.
You still want control. You still want to lead. But you also want a little distance—just enough to create the suspension of mystery.
You like the tease. The slow reveal. You want to be admired from behind. You want the other person to feel the anticipation of not seeing your face… but feeling everything.
Reverse cowgirl is a confession that you love sensual power. Not in a loud way. Not in an obvious way. But in the kind of way that makes someone lean in, want more, and follow your rhythm.
When I draw this one, I draw it as a fantasy in motion. A snapshot of someone who knows exactly how to captivate without trying too hard.
69: The Pleasure-Equalizer
69 is one of those positions people laugh about when they’re younger—and then later discover it’s one of the most intimate, erotic, and generous positions of all.
If you’re into 69, you’re a giver and a receiver. You believe pleasure is meant to be shared. You want the connection of taste, scent, sound, and sensation all at once. You like pleasure layered on pleasure.
69 lovers are the ones who want to feel everything happening at the same time. The ones who understand that pleasure is not one-directional. It’s circular. Reciprocal. A loop.
I always consider this position the art of reciprocity. No one is the star of the show—because both are.
In my cards, I draw 69 with the bodies arranged like a symbol of infinity. Erotic, yes. But also a reminder of something bigger:
Pleasure is a conversation.
Missionary: The Classic Romantic Who Isn’t Boring at All
Missionary is the most misunderstood position in the world.
People think it’s boring. Predictable. Vanilla.
But the truth? Missionary lovers are the most secretly passionate ones. You like to feel someone on you, hold you, kiss you, stay close. It’s the position with the most emotional depth—and the most physical contact.
You like intimacy. You like closeness. You want the deepest kind of connection: eye contact while everything is happening.
Missionary lovers are the ones who secretly want to feel chosen—not just touched. You want sex to have meaning. You want to feel someone breathing with you. You want the moment to be more than just movement.
When I draw this position, I always think of it as the erotic equivalent of:
“I want to be close to you.”
Not boring. Not safe.
Just beautifully human.
Sex Positions Are Personality Maps
We all have a favorite. We all have a default. We all have one that turns the room into a different temperature the moment we think about it.
But what’s more interesting is that these positions are not random. They say something about how we approach pleasure:
Are you bold?
Do you want closeness?
Do you need mystery?
Do you like being in control?
Do you surrender only when it feels right?
Do you thrive on synergy?
These aren’t facts in a psychology book. They’re truths written on your body.
And that’s where the connection between sex and art becomes unavoidable.
Sex positions are compositions.
Sex becomes choreography.
Bodies become design.
It’s why The Secret Drawer cards exist. Not just as an erotic product. But as erotic personality.
Each card is a statement:
“This is who I am in bed.”
“This is what I dream of.”
“This is what I want.”
Why We Choose the Positions We Choose
We choose positions the way we choose partners, fantasies, and even art.
Some people pick the comfortable option. Some pick the thrilling one.
Some want the pretty one; others want the intense one.
Your favorite position is your erotic fingerprint.
It shows:
What turns you on
How you connect
What you crave
How you love
The truth is, sex positions are never just sexual—they’re psychological.
If you’re a doggy-style person, you need intensity.
If you love cowgirl, you need control.
If you love missionary, you need intimacy.
If you crave 69, you need reciprocity.
No one position is better than another. But each one reveals where your desire feels most alive.
The Secret Drawer Connection
When I created The Secret Drawer cards, I wanted to capture exactly that moment where sex becomes personal. Where fantasy becomes something you can hold in your hand. Where the erotic becomes art.
These cards aren’t just cute or sexy or playful.
They’re invitations.
Invitations to say:
This is what I want tonight.
This is what I fantasize about.
This is who I am in bed.
Sometimes we need words. Sometimes we need a gesture.
Sometimes we just need a card placed quietly where someone will find it.
One thing I’ve learned?
Desire doesn’t always speak loudly.
Sometimes it slides into a drawer and waits.
So… what does your favorite position reveal about you?
Are you the wild one? The romantic? The one who takes control?
The one who shares pleasure?
Maybe your favorite position isn’t about technique at all. Maybe it’s about identity.
And if you ever want a beautiful, erotic reminder of who you are, and what you want
just open The Secret Drawer.
No instructions needed.
No explanations required.
Just art.
Just desire.
Just you
Card #2 back side: I want you writhing under me, every touch, every moan...
Let's fuck this one tonight